Narcissistic Personality Disorder-How To Spot The Subtle Signs Of A Narcissist And Continue To Thrive After An Encounter. by Sayers Tony

Author:Sayers, Tony [Sayers, Tony]
Language: eng
Format: epub, azw
Published: 2019-02-03T16:00:00+00:00

Disbelief

How could they have done something like that to me? Back when you were still in the narcissist’s grasp, you might have thought that everything they did was nothing short of the best. They had your best interest at heart, and everything they told you to do was recommended out of their intense desire to see you succeed.

However, as the smoke clears away, you might start to see what they were really trying to do. The good intentions start to look more like personal agendas, and the recommendations intended to improve your life are now obviously self-serving.

Often, the feeling of disbelief hits the children of a narcissist the hardest. We’re conditioned to believe that our parents want nothing but the best for us, so it comes as a surprise to find out that they were actually making demands to suit their own desires instead of making recommendations to benefit our future.

Narcissistic parents can be odd in their behavior, because the narcissistic tendencies tend to override the calling to be nurturing and loving. So, they end up controlling their children, feeding them conditional love, and forcing them to tow a tight line in order to raise people that they can call extensions of themselves.

As you heal, you need to understand that anything the narcissist did throughout your relationship was likely to benefit themselves. These things may come as a surprise as you realize them and continue to discover the truth but learning to accept the tragic reality of the narcissistic personality will make it easier to cope with the truth of their actions.

Longing

For a while, it’s likely that the only thing that fueled you was your desire to please and praise your abuser. You found validity and worth in the small amounts of ‘love’ that they would toss you, like a dog waiting for a bone. Despite the toxicity of the relationship, those moments when you would receive even just some semblance of affection was more than enough to keep you going.

That’s how the abuser manages to get you to stay close, providing you conditional love and validation in small doses was an effective way to keep you striving to keep them happy. Unfortunately, now that the abuser is gone and you’re left in this isolated state, there won’t be anyone to provide you with the love you’re looking for.

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